{"id":10840,"date":"2017-03-03T16:35:03","date_gmt":"2017-03-04T00:35:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/?p=10840"},"modified":"2020-10-20T20:46:17","modified_gmt":"2020-10-21T03:46:17","slug":"ac-colab-perspective","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/co-lab\/arthur\/ac-colab-perspective\/","title":{"rendered":"A Co-Lab Perspective"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>Opening Insights: <strong>Three Positions of Decision Making<\/strong><\/h2>\n\r\n\t<style>\r\n.rTable {    \r\ndisplay: table;    \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableRow {    \r\ndisplay: table-row; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-header-group;  \r\nwidth: 50%;\r\nbackground-color: #ddd;  \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableCell, .rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell;    \r\npadding: 3px 10px;   \r\n\twidth: 50%;\r\nborder: 1px solid #FFFFFF; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableFoot {    \r\ndisplay: table-footer-group; \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableBody.Bold {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\n}\r\n\t\t\r\n.rTableBody.Italic {    \r\ndisplay: table-row-group; \r\nfont-style: italic;\r\n}\r\n\r\n<\/style>\r\n\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-10437 alignleft\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/glass_pen_wide-300x180.png\" width=\"269\" height=\"161\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/glass_pen_wide-300x180.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/glass_pen_wide.png 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 269px) 100vw, 269px\" \/><strong>Fear<\/strong>, <strong>Trust<\/strong>, and <strong>Courage<\/strong> were discussed in a recent Co-Lab team meeting. Those topics are of great interest to me. Fear of rejection, due to my lack of perfection, prevents me from completing assigned tasks in a timely manner. Everything must be perfect! Also, I don&#8217;t know how to trust, and as a result I don&#8217;t trust anyone, leading to a very solitary existence. A lack of courage exacerbates both problems. Working together with my Co-Lab teammates helped me see things through a different perspective.<\/p>\n<h2>Informational Insights: Fear Paralyzes &#8211; Stupefies<\/h2>\n<p>The last 2 years I participated as buddy support for a friend in a recovery Co-Lab. There have been ups and downs in the discovery\/recovery support process. Recently a sizable down prompted my friend to compose letters of apology and future intent to team members. The letters came as a result of his massive emotional relapse and engineered attack on his team. He wrote them as an exercise in gaining insight into the <em>wrongs perpetrated<\/em> and the <em>damage done<\/em> so he could begin to seek resolution.<\/p>\n<p>I didn&#8217;t want to read the one he wrote to me, and I put it off for days. My reluctance was a <strong>fear<\/strong> <strong>response\/reaction<\/strong> based on previous hurts and expectations of what <em>I thought<\/em> would happen next. Lessons learned in the Co-Lab reminded me: when fear guides us, rather than trust, no real discoveries can happen. I would get stuck on a lesson for months at a time while in the grip of fear. When fear of hurt and the expectation of wrong-doing are foremost in my thinking, how can there be any room for exploration? Defenses are up!<\/p>\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>A switch for trust: on or off?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-10441 alignright\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/lookinglass_wide-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"237\" height=\"157\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/lookinglass_wide-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/lookinglass_wide.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 237px) 100vw, 237px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In the Co-Lab we discussed the emotional triggers that could flip our switches. That is how I came to discover the <em>third position<\/em> on all the two-way switches in my life. In our natural world we have day and night. A two-way switch is necessary to select day or night, but a focus on one or the other leaves no accounting for the in-between. What happened to dusk? Light to dark doesn&#8217;t happen instantaneously, there&#8217;s a transition in-between. The third position, not one side nor the other but in-between, is a whole other area. It may not be marked as <em>on <\/em>or <em>off, <\/em>but it&#8217;s in that metaphorical area where <strong>discovery<\/strong> happens.<\/p>\n<p>Back to my friend&#8217;s letter. I was reluctant to read it because I could only see two switch positions: he&#8217;s lying, or he&#8217;s being genuine. No room was left for the in-between that is discovery, and that wasn&#8217;t fair to either of us. <strong>Trust<\/strong> was needed for discovery to occur. Trusting my friend wasn&#8217;t going to happen, he slaughtered that option. Instead, it was mandatory that I learn to trust myself. Therein lies the problem; how do I learn to trust myself?<\/p>\n<p>Self-trust stems from an ability to identify, accept and adhere to, processes. Rather than allow my feelings and emotions to guide my decisions, I would trust in my ability to <em>follow instructions<\/em>. The answer to my trust problem was that simple; follow a process. That process is identified in the 5<strong>\u00a0Absolutes<\/strong>, a set of guiding principles and the foundation of the Co-Labs. By accepting the principles and building the models of their application into my life I am following a process. My thinking may lead me astray and my emotions may be erratic, but a foundation in Honesty, Selflessness, Understanding, Pure Intent and Love will keep me straight and true on life&#8217;s path.<\/p>\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Courage for the path ahead\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-10440 alignleft\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/light_bulb_wide-300x197.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"210\" height=\"137\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/light_bulb_wide-300x197.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/light_bulb_wide.png 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 210px) 100vw, 210px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Now the path is laid clearly before me, I must have the courage to walk it. What is courage? Take one part clarity and one part conviction then <em>courage<\/em> is the result. It&#8217;s what happens when our thoughts are based in the 5 Absolutes. Clarity comes from <strong>selflessness<\/strong>. Selfish-ness only projects fear. When I can look beyond the &#8220;mighty I&#8221; and truly see others then our world and <em>all<\/em> my choices are laid before me.<\/p>\n<p><em>Clarity<\/em> means I can identify my options and see where I want to go. <em>Conviction<\/em> means I stay the course come smooth sailing or rough waters. A foundation in the 5 Absolutes helps me make a decision; and conviction means I don&#8217;t change my mind midway through the process. With <em>courage<\/em> I have more <strong>choices<\/strong> and I&#8217;m in-charge of my life. Which brings me back to the topic of my friend&#8217;s letter.<\/p>\n<p>At first I could only see the hurt and disappointment that would result from reading the letter, so I put it off. I was only focused on the bad and what I would lose. I didn&#8217;t focus on the potential good that could come out of it, or what I could gain. I was looking at a two-way switch, which <em>is not<\/em> living in a world of discovery. My mind was already made up, which meant I was blind.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>But, I have all the tools\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-10857 alignright\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/people\/stairs-man-person-walking-medium-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"245\" height=\"163\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/people\/stairs-man-person-walking-medium-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/people\/stairs-man-person-walking-medium.jpg 525w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 245px) 100vw, 245px\" \/>A solution materialized in the experiential learning process of the Co-Lab. My fear whispered cautionary advice for the way ahead, but I didn&#8217;t allow it to select my path. I stuck to the <em>principles<\/em> and <em>processes<\/em> to build trust in my ability to have <em>choices<\/em>. Thus <em>self-trust <\/em>formed, which led to <em>self-esteem<\/em>, then <em>self-love <\/em>(not ego) and finally the ability to<em> love another<\/em>. I assembled courage to explore with clarity from selflessness and my conviction to stay the course. These tools empowered me with <strong>compassion <\/strong>for others, not judgment. In the end I was once again vulnerable to being hurt by my friend, but I was also open to letting his light shine through.<\/p>\n<p>The <em>middle position<\/em> of my switch labeled: <strong>discovery<\/strong> finally became visible, and that\u2019s when knowledge of a real tragedy hit me. My eyes have worked perfectly all my life, but long ago I forgot how to use them. Without a foundation in the 4 Absolutes fear and blind luck would be my only guides.<\/p>\n<h2>Possibilities for Consideration: Tools for Discovery<\/h2>\n<h3>Take a moment and examine\u2026<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>As you reviewed the material above, what stood out to you?<\/li>\n<li>What is the potential impact, economically and\/or socially?<\/li>\n<li>What action is needed to stop or support this idea?<\/li>\n<li>You may want to consider whether you:\n<ul>\n<li>want to be <em>aware<\/em> of,<\/li>\n<li>should become <em>supportive<\/em> of,<\/li>\n<li>would want to be <em>active<\/em> in this topic?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Add Your Insight<\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply.<br \/>\nBeing willing is not enough; we must do.<br \/>\n<\/em>LEONARDO DA VINCI<\/p>\n<div class=\"rTable\"><\/div>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>Opening Insights: Three Positions of Decision Making Fear, Trust, and Courage were discussed in a recent Co-Lab team meeting. Those topics are of great interest to me. 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