{"id":3038,"date":"2016-04-02T21:16:13","date_gmt":"2016-04-03T04:16:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/?p=3038"},"modified":"2019-08-16T10:49:08","modified_gmt":"2019-08-16T17:49:08","slug":"get-angry-to-get-even","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/healthcare\/richardawarecomm-com\/get-angry-to-get-even\/","title":{"rendered":"I Never Carry A Grudge As Long As I Get Even: Get Angry To Get Even"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>Opening Insights<\/h2>\n<p>I would suggest that we have a world that is full of anger. We even have developed a new solution called &#8220;<em>Anger Management.\u201d <\/em>We know from the mental health world that fear is a natural and healthy emotion\u2026 <em>when it is real fear <\/em>(NOT <em>false evidence appearing real). Anger is no different.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2>Informational Insights<\/h2>\n<p>Anger is a natural and healthy emotion that occurs as part of our survival system &#8212; when we do nothing to correct the situation in which we are afraid. If this is true (which it most likely is), than perhaps something is wrong with our solution.<\/p>\n<p>We all have <strong>5 basic needs<\/strong> in life:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Survival<\/li>\n<li>Freedom<\/li>\n<li>Usefulness<\/li>\n<li>Love<\/li>\n<li>Self-Identity (Self-Esteem)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3039 \" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/ctrl-wheel-300x219.jpg\" alt=\"ctrl-wheel\" width=\"316\" height=\"231\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/ctrl-wheel-300x219.jpg 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/ctrl-wheel.jpg 588w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 316px) 100vw, 316px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Much fear comes from hurt. Hurt is the sudden and unexpected removal of the fulfillment of one or more of these 5 basic needs. When we see no way to find a substitute to fulfill the empty need, we feel FEAR.\u00a0\u00a0 When we cannot find a way to fulfill the empty need, <strong>we get angry<\/strong> which is a normal and natural reaction to TAKE ACTION NOW.<\/p>\n<p>We get angry at:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Others \u2013 Hostility<\/li>\n<li>Self \u2013 Depression<\/li>\n<li>Just hold it in \u2013 Resentment waiting to dump on someone<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Now for the rest of the story\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Whenever there is a loss (the lack of the fulfillment of a need) we must go through a process of GRIEVING, sometimes called \u201cLetting Go\u201d. <strong>Grieving consists of 5 stages<\/strong> that everyone must go through.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Denial<\/strong> \u2013 I don\u2019t have a problem. It doesn\u2019t bother me (I have no solution and do not need anybody because I don\u2019t trust anybody. In fact I don\u2019t care about anybody and anything. I am strong and tough.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bargaining<\/strong> to Take Control of Others \u2013 There is a problem. It isn\u2019t that important to me. I will agree to do \u201cThis\u201d if you will do \u201cThat\u201d!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Anger <\/strong>\u2013 When we can\u2019t get into control of others we get angry:\n<ul>\n<li>Others \u2013 Hostility<\/li>\n<li>Self \u2013 Depression<\/li>\n<li>I just hold it in \u2013 Resentment waiting to dump it on someone.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Hopeless <\/strong>\u2013 We will rotate between these three forms of anger until finally, <em>I GIVE UP<\/em> and admit things are <em>HOPELESS<\/em> and <em>I am Helpless.<\/em><\/li>\n<li><strong>Acceptance <\/strong>\u2013 Then we reach the end. We surrender. Not what we needed (or wanted) but how and who will fulfill the need. We come to a place of ACCEPTANCE. We accept help from others. We find out who really:\n<ul>\n<li>Understands us<\/li>\n<li>Cares about us<\/li>\n<li>Partners with us<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong>We then embrace the concept of \u201cWE.\u201d<br \/>\n<\/strong><br \/>\nThe logical conclusion is to build a \u201cGrieving Process\u201d into our lives.<\/p>\n<p><strong>WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE<\/strong> to have an app that will guide us through this grieving process to better understand ourselves \u2013 to learn and grow to be all that we can be?<\/p>\n<p><strong>WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE<\/strong> if we could:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Develop real friendships that we can depend on<\/li>\n<li>Develop real relationships that we can depend on<\/li>\n<li>Develop real marriages that we can depend on<\/li>\n<li>Develop real jobs that we can depend on<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>In the final analysis WE GET EVEN WITH THE WORLD<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-3031 aligncenter\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/pp-wheel-300x208.png\" alt=\"pp-wheel\" width=\"352\" height=\"244\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/pp-wheel-300x208.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/pp-wheel-600x417.png 600w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/PWIModels\/pp-wheel.png 828w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 352px) 100vw, 352px\" \/><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>Possibilities for Consideration<\/h2>\n<h3>Take a moment and examine\u2026<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>As you reviewed the material above, what stood out to you?<\/li>\n<li>What is the potential impact, economically and\/or socially?<\/li>\n<li>What action is needed to stop or support this idea?<\/li>\n<li>You may want to consider whether you:\n<ul>\n<li>want to be <em>aware<\/em> of,<\/li>\n<li>should become <em>supportive<\/em> of,<\/li>\n<li>would want to be <em>active<\/em> in this topic?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Add Your Insight<\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply.<\/em><em><br \/>\n<\/em><em>Being willing is not enough; we must do.<\/em><em><br \/>\n<\/em>LEONARDO DA VINCI<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>Opening Insights I would suggest that we have a world that is full of anger. 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