{"id":8289,"date":"2016-11-26T12:38:18","date_gmt":"2016-11-26T20:38:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/?p=8289"},"modified":"2020-10-20T20:46:17","modified_gmt":"2020-10-21T03:46:17","slug":"letting-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/healthcare\/discovery-co-lab\/pwi-co-lab-staff\/letting-go\/","title":{"rendered":"PWI Letting Go"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n\r\n\t<style>\r\n.rTable {    \r\ndisplay: table;    \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableRow {    \r\ndisplay: table-row; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-header-group;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd;  \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableCell, .rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell;    \r\npadding: 3px 10px;  \r\nfont-size: 12px; \r\nborder: 1px solid #999999;\r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableFoot {    \r\ndisplay: table-footer-group; \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableBody.Bold {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\n}\r\n\t\t\r\n.rTableBody.Italic {    \r\ndisplay: table-row-group; \r\nfont-style: italic;\r\n}\r\n\r\n<\/style>\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text\/css\">\r\n      p { \r\n        font-size:12px; \r\n      }\r\n.green {\r\ncolor: #088A08; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;\r\n}\r\n\r\n.bold {\r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\n}\r\n\r\n\t<\/style>\r\n\t\n<h2>Opening Insights: Letting Go<\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>We have all heard the advice:<\/strong><br \/>\n&#8220;<em>Let Go and let GOD&#8221; \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/em>&#8220;<em>Oh, just let it go\u2026&#8221; \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/em>&#8220;<em>Forget it and move on<\/em>&#8220;<br \/>\n&#8220;<em>Don\u2019t think about it \u2013 just distract yourself<\/em>&#8221; \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0&#8220;<em>Get over it\u2026 get on with your life already<\/em>&#8220;<\/p>\n<h2>Informational Insights: <em><strong>Well for most of us&#8230; that really doesn\u2019t work<\/strong><\/em><\/h2>\n<h3>It doesn\u2019t work because there are two critical phases of letting go:<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Logical Resolution<\/li>\n<li>Emotional Acceptance<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Logical Resolution &#8211;<\/strong> That means it has to make sense.\u00a0 We have to understand, <em>why me?\u00a0<\/em> What did I do to deserve this? \u00a0If we don\u2019t answer these basic questions, we can\u2019t even start the emotional process of letting go.<\/p>\n<p>For example &#8211; many times others hurt us and we can\u2019t understand why they did it\u2026 they said things that were not only cruel but not true.\u00a0 No matter how hard we try we can\u2019t make sense out of nonsense.\u00a0 For many of us we were in situation that we were only a stand in for someone else.\u00a0 We (as a person) were not involved in the transaction.<\/p>\n<p>Many people try to let it stop there, but there is a <em>little more<\/em> to it than that&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Emotional Acceptance<\/strong>:\u00a0 Once we understand it we can begin the PROCESS of letting go.\u00a0 Now the real work begins\u2026 We pass through a staged process of:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Denial<\/strong> \u2013 It doesn\u2019t bother me and I am going on with my life.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Bargaining<\/strong> \u2013 We feel out of control of our life and try to get into control of our life.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Anger<\/strong> \u2013 We find ourselves feeling betrayed, used, tricked and hostile at everyone.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Hopeless<\/strong> \u2013 We feel defeated and depressed&#8230; Angry inwardly but like a victim outwardly.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Acceptance<\/strong> \u2013 We come to accept life is a process of give and take and that the next gift awaits around the corner. To get it we have to have a perspective of equality and we reap what we sow.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Discover<\/strong> \u2013 We come to find Intrinsic Value in our loss and experience the discovery, opportunity and possibility that unfolds as a result of our willingness to be open to a new way.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Experience<\/strong> \u2013 We come to experience that life is about what we have to give and we seek ways to give back and thus, experience the value we have discovered.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When it comes to The Letting Go Process, a key piece to realize and remember is that when we get to Stage 4 and we experience\u00a0<strong>Hopelessness, <\/strong>while we may experience the situation as\u00a0<strong>Hopeless<\/strong>\u00a0(and it may very well be)<strong>,\u00a0<\/strong><strong>we are not<\/strong> <strong>Helpless<\/strong>. \u00a0Once we reach this stage of <strong>Hopelessness<\/strong> we have the opportunity to come to <strong>Acceptance <\/strong>by discovering the<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>value in what we have lost. \u00a0When we find the value in the loss we experienced, we can\u00a0then <em>move from our belief structure to our value system<\/em> &#8211; learn and let go. \u00a0Once in our value system we can shift our <em>anger at <\/em>to<em> anger about<\/em>&#8230; and so the cycle goes.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-4559\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png\" alt=\"pwi_logo\" width=\"300\" height=\"176\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo.png 406w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<div style=\"float: left; text-align: left; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Developing<br \/>\nEmotional Maturity<\/h1>\n<p><strong>Letting Go is a natural process that requires Emotional Maturity consisting of five stages. \u00a0When someone takes a decision away from us, we revert back to childhood and we must work through the Letting Go Process to rebuild our emotional maturity.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">We are all in a state of change.\u00a0 Change is what life is all about.<br \/>\nYet, many people have difficulty with change. Why is this?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">At Pocket Wisdom Insights, we believe that we all must go through 5 basic stages of emotional development to become a mature adult.\u00a0 During each stage we learn to fulfill each of our five basic needs.\u00a0 As we learn to fulfill each basic need, our emotional maturity grows.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>The following represents the respective stages of development, the fulfillment of needs and emotional maturity.<\/strong> The conclusion is an adult with the ability to have a sense of self and shared authority.\u00a0 With this ability the person can have healthy relationships and contribute\/participate as a team player.<\/p>\n\r\n\t<style>\r\n.rTable {    \r\ndisplay: table;    \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableRow {    \r\ndisplay: table-row; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-header-group; \r\nbackground-color: #ddd;  \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableCell, .rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell;    \r\npadding: 3px 10px;  \r\nfont-size: 12px; \r\nborder: 1px solid #999999; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableFoot {    \r\ndisplay: table-footer-group; \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableBody {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell; \r\n}\r\n\r\n<\/style>\r\n\n<div class=\"rTable\">\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Stage of Development<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Needs<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Emotional Maturity Development<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">1. Child<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Survival<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Self<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">2. Adolescent<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Freedom<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Accountability<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">3. Passage<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Useful<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Responsibility<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">4. Interdependent Adult<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Love Others, Self-Love<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Shared Authority<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">5. Independent Adult<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Self-Identity<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Self-Authority<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"float: left; text-align: left; width: 100%;\">\n<p>There are many things that can cause us to lose our interdependent adult status that is based on relationships, teamwork and shared authority.\u00a0 This directly affects and infects our self-identity and self-esteem.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Sometimes, when things change we can look and see what happened to us and make a new decision, pick ourselves up and go on with our life.<\/li>\n<li>Other times, we seem to fall into a hole that we can&#8217;t seem to get out of and we keep going over and over the same thing saying, &#8220;It isn&#8217;t fair&#8221; and &#8220;Why is this happening to me?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-4559\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png\" alt=\"pwi_logo\" width=\"300\" height=\"176\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo.png 406w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<div style=\"float: left; text-align: left; width: 5%;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"float: left; text-align: left; width: 40%; margin: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>First Reason<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Losing Emotional Authority<\/h1>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>There are two reasons\u00a0why we can&#8217;t simply make a new decision, let go and move on:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>First,<\/strong> when we are being controlled and manipulated by others, the decisions are being made for us.\u00a0 When this happens, <strong>we lose our sense of self-accountability, self-responsibility and self-authority.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Many times, others make decisions for us because they have power over us and we must accept their decisions.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Other times, we find ourselves in a place of forced choice.\u00a0 Others limit or control the choices available to us.\u00a0 We are forced to choose something that we did not want or agree with.\u00a0 In essence, our sense of self-authority was\u00a0taken away.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">There are also times there are no choices.\u00a0 An example of this could be the death of a loved one.\u00a0 That is just the way life is.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Even worse, we accept the decisions of others because they are the &#8220;experts.&#8221; \u00a0 They are the doctors, the psychologists, the counselors, the ministers they put labels &#8211; their diagnostic opinion &#8211; on us.\u00a0 They define our identity in terms of our gender, behavior, and attitude.\u00a0 Our perspective of self becomes based on their personal opinion that we have accepted as our own.<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Last, is the inability to separate reality from fantasy.\u00a0 When life is unacceptable to us and we feel we are powerless to change anything, we then create fantasies or illusions.\u00a0 After a while, we begin to believe them.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #000080;\">The bottom line is&#8230;<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>If we are not involved in the decisions about our life,<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong> we become emotionally powerless to make any new decisions.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>Instead, others must make the decision for us, or at least,<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong> we feel the need for others to validate our new decision.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-4559\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png\" alt=\"pwi_logo\" width=\"300\" height=\"176\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo.png 406w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><!--nextpage-->Second Reason<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Losing Emotional Authority<\/h1>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Second,<\/strong> our own ego doesn&#8217;t want to admit we made a mistake and<br \/>\nwe keep trying over and over to make our old decision work.<\/p>\n<p><strong>As a Result, We Emotionally Switch From Adult Back To Child<\/strong><\/p>\n\r\n\t<style>\r\n.rTable {    \r\ndisplay: table;    \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableRow {    \r\ndisplay: table-row; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-header-group;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd;  \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableCell, .rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell;    \r\npadding: 3px 10px;  \r\nfont-size: 12px; \r\nborder: 1px solid #999999; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableFoot {    \r\ndisplay: table-footer-group; \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableBody {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell; \r\n}\r\n\r\n<\/style>\r\n\n<div class=\"rTable\">\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Stage of Development<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Needs<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Emotional Maturity Development<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Loss of Maturity<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">1. Child<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Survival<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Self<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Person Returns to a Child<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">2. Adolescent<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Freedom<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Accountability<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Loss of Accountability<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">3. Passage<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Useful<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Responsibility<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Loss of Responsibility<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">4. Interdependent Adult<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Love Others, Self-Love<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Shared Authority<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Others Make Decisions About You and Others<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Loss of Relationships<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">5. Independent Adult<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Self-Identity<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Self-Authority<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Others Make Decisions About You<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Loss of Authority \/ Self-Identity<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>This collapse causes us to enter a STATE of FEAR that causes us\u00a0to assume the position of either the helpless child victim or the ego-based adolescent.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>HELPLESS VICTIM CHILD<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We become the helpless victim when we\u00a0see ALL the power coming from outside of self.\u00a0 We are the effect of the problem and never the cause.\u00a0 There is no sense of:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Self-Authority &#8211; The ability to make our own decisions, because we see no choices<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Self-Responsibility &#8211; The ability to take action, because we don&#8217;t know what or how to do anything<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: left;\">Self-Accountability &#8211; The ability to ask and accept feedback, because we don&#8217;t know what we have done to ourselves and\/or others<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The result is that Self-Identity disappears and <strong>fear grows<\/strong>.\u00a0 Once we have regressed back to childhood, we then resort to old learned behaviors and attempt to create a false ego to regain our status of equality.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>EGO-BASED ADOLESCENT<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>By resorting to a false ego as a replacement for self-identity and true self-esteem, we substitute fantasy for reality.\u00a0 We begin a process of trying to prove we are okay by controlling what is on the outside&#8230; how we look and how we act.\u00a0 Remember, it is our false ego that tells us that if we lose this control of outside events, we will be less than we are now.\u00a0 We still do not have a sense of self identity.\u00a0 Without self-identity we cannot have self esteem.\u00a0 <strong>The fear continues to grow.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>THE NATURE OF OUR CULTURE<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">We live in a world that has defined feeling afraid, bad, or sad as wrong.\u00a0 As a result we shut off our feelings by either taking a pill, a drink, having sex, going shopping, spending money, or getting angry.\u00a0 When we don&#8217;t <strong>resolve<\/strong> and let go of feelings, they accumulate and take over our life.\u00a0 Thus, the solution to the problem <strong>inside<\/strong> ourselves is falsely found <strong>outside<\/strong> ourselves.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">We stay stuck in emotional immaturity, sometimes for our entire life, unless we let go completely.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-4559\" src=\"\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png\" alt=\"pwi_logo\" width=\"300\" height=\"176\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo-300x176.png 300w, https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/pwi_logo.png 406w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<div style=\"float: left; text-align: left; width: 100%;\">\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Regaining<br \/>\nEmotional\/Spiritual Maturity<\/h1>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Letting go is a natural process that consists of several stages. When someone takes a decision away from us, we revert back to childhood and must work through the letting go process to rebuild our emotional maturity.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Each stage has a lesson to be learned so the person can progress to the next step: each step is independent, yet interdependent on the one that came before and after.<\/p>\n\r\n\r\n\t<style>\r\n.rTable {    \r\ndisplay: table;    \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableRow {    \r\ndisplay: table-row; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-header-group;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd;  \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableCell, .rTableHead {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell;    \r\npadding: 3px 10px;  \r\nfont-size: 12px; \r\nborder: 1px solid #999999;\r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableFoot {    \r\ndisplay: table-footer-group; \r\nwidth: 100%; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\nbackground-color: #ddd; \r\n} \r\n\r\n.rTableBody.Bold {    \r\ndisplay: table-cell; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;  \r\n}\r\n\t\t\r\n.rTableBody.Italic {    \r\ndisplay: table-row-group; \r\nfont-style: italic;\r\n}\r\n\r\n<\/style>\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text\/css\">\r\n      p { \r\n        font-size:12px; \r\n      }\r\n.green {\r\ncolor: #088A08; \r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\ntext-align: center;\r\n}\r\n\r\n.bold {\r\nfont-weight: bold; \r\n}\r\n\r\n\t<\/style>\r\n\t\n<div class=\"rTable\">\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Stage<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">Description<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">The Lesson of This Stage<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableHead\">How To Let Go and Move On<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">1.Denial<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Don&#8217;t Even Notice I Am Lying<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">There is a problem<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Attention<\/span> \u2013 what is really happening<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">2. Bargaining<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Aware<\/span> of loss of control<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing being out of balance<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Center<\/span> and join with God for balance<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">3. Anger<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Hostility<\/span> at others<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing I can&#8217;t control\u00a0others<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Respect<\/span> &#8211; can&#8217;t change others<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Resentment<\/span> as unexpressed anger<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing I can&#8217;t manipulate others<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Honesty<\/span> &#8211; no hidden agendas<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Depression<\/span> as anger at self<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing I can&#8217;t change others<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Self -Authority, Responsibility, Accountability.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">4. Hopeless<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Feeling <span class=\"bold\">powerless<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing who I am and who I\u00a0am not.<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Join with GOD<\/span> in partnership<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">5. Acceptance<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Serenity-<span class=\"bold\">peaceful<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing there is no need to control everything<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Join\/Value others<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">6. Shift Anger At to Angry About<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">7. Discover \u201cIntrinsic Value\u201d<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Surrendering <span class=\"bold\">old ways<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing there is value in everything<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Finding Value in the Loss<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">8. Experiencing the Value<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Collaboration<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\">Experiencing that acceptance is what we have to give<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"bold\">Sharing Your Experience<\/span> (PWI Value Intelligence, PWI Blog, PWI App-On, PWI Volunteer Buddy)<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">RESULT<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">RESULT<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">RESULT<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">RESULT<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableRow\">\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">A Mature<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">Integrated Person<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">Capable of Participation and Contribution<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"rTableCell\"><span class=\"green\">Continue To Do The Process Over and Over To RESOLVE Problems<\/span><\/div>\n<div>\n<h2 style=\"tab-stops: 2.5in;\">Possibilities for Consideration<\/h2>\n<p><strong> Really Letting Go&#8230;<\/strong><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 16bx; font-weight: strong;\"><br \/>\nNot going through these stages of letting go as a process, is not an option.<br \/>\nIf we interrupt this natural process,<br \/>\nwe never learn from our negative experiences and<br \/>\nwe will repeat them over and over.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: center; font-size: 13px;\"><em><strong>Let\u2019s make the dream big enough for everybody.<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/em>RICHARD JORGENSEN<em><strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h2>Add Your Insight<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>Opening Insights: Letting Go We have all heard the advice: &#8220;Let Go and let GOD&#8221; \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0&#8220;Oh, just let it go\u2026&#8221; \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0&#8220;Forget it and move on&#8220; &#8220;Don\u2019t think about it \u2013 just <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/healthcare\/discovery-co-lab\/pwi-co-lab-staff\/letting-go\/\" title=\"PWI Letting Go\">[&#8230;]<\/a><!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":8298,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[201,76,81,77,80],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8289","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-emod-blog","category-discovery-co-lab","category-discovery-co-lab-blogs","category-recovery-co-lab","category-recovery-co-lab-blogs"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/bird-flying-past-window.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8289","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8289"}],"version-history":[{"count":95,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8289\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":40202,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8289\/revisions\/40202"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8298"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8289"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8289"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8289"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}