{"id":8906,"date":"2016-12-19T22:30:01","date_gmt":"2016-12-20T06:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/?p=8906"},"modified":"2019-02-18T20:57:20","modified_gmt":"2019-02-19T04:57:20","slug":"transference-and-narcissism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/healthcare\/recovery-co-lab\/pwi-co-lab-staff\/transference-and-narcissism\/","title":{"rendered":"Transference and Narcissism"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>Opening Insights: <strong>Examples of Transference<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><em>In an attempt to demystify transference, here are some very simple examples:<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You meet someone at a party who reminds you of your<strong> favorite aunt<\/strong> and you find yourself <strong>feeling warmly<\/strong> towards this new acquaintance.<\/li>\n<li>You have <strong>difficulty depending on others<\/strong>, as a result you may find yourself <strong>feeling and acting resentful, jealous, or angry<\/strong> towards your coach\/sponsor\/teacher\/counselor (person [or people] trying to be of support) without realizing that there is a <strong>connection<\/strong> between these feelings and the coach&#8217;s\/sponsor&#8217;s\/teacher&#8217;s\/counselor&#8217;s upcoming surgery\/vacation etc.<\/li>\n<li>You may <strong>fear disapproval and rejection<\/strong> and notice that you suddenly find yourself <strong>worried about judgment or criticism<\/strong> from others when:\n<ul>\n<li>You get <strong>feedback<\/strong> on tasks<\/li>\n<li>You <strong>start to talk about a certain topic <\/strong><\/li>\n<li>You <strong>feel a particular feeling \/ emotion<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li>You may be a perpetually single person prone to distrusting people and begin to view your coach\/sponsor\/teacher\/counselor\u00a0with suspicion as your relationship deepens.<\/li>\n<li>You <strong>may struggle with anger and hostility<\/strong> and find yourself <strong>similarly<\/strong> struggling with anger and hostility toward your coach\/sponsor\/teacher\/counselor.<\/li>\n<li>Your coach\/sponsor\/teacher\/counselor may say something that <strong>reminds you of something your mother or father said that hurt you<\/strong>\u00a0[emotionally] when you were younger and you find yourself\u00a0and <strong>acting resentful, jealous, or angry<\/strong> towards your coach\/sponsor\/teacher .[1]<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Is Transference Easy to Notice?<\/strong><br \/>\nIt depends. Of note, these are emotional experiences that a person feels in response to the therapist but likely won\u2019t be able to immediately explain or understand. Generally the roots of these responses are not fully conscious. The idea is that a client can begin to see how their mind works in the unique relationship with the therapist, a relationship that is purposefully structured to make the client\u2019s psychology more apparent and a topic of exploration. Noticing, exploring and working through these emotional experiences in relationship with the therapist is a powerful mechanism of growth. [1]<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>Informational Insights: Transference and Narcissism<\/h2>\n<p>Transference can be helpful, however, it can also be harmful. \u00a0<strong>When the 4 Absolutes are lacking in ones perception of reality and life, narcissism can create a (conscious and \/ or automatic) transference of unresolved emotional issues.<\/strong> \u00a0This occurs for most people. It is the reason why we so often find ourselves in the &#8220;same relationships&#8221; with different people &#8211; trying to resolve and deal with issues from the past.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><b>What does the narcissistic transference look like? Spotnitz (1976a, p. 109) states that:<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u201cOn the surface it looks positive. He builds up this attitude: \u2018You are like me so I like you. You spend time with me and try to understand me, and I love you for it.\u2019 Underneath the sweet crust, however, one gets transient glimpses of the opposite attitude: \u2018I hate you as I hate myself. But when I feel like hating you, I try to hate myself instead.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><p><b>Spotnitz (1985, p. 201) describes the result when the narcissistic transference is successfully developed:<\/b><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c(w)hen one focuses on the narcissistic patterns and works consistently to help the patient verbalize frustration-tension, object transference phenomena become increasingly prominent\u2026 Eventually, the patient\u2019s transferences are aroused by his emotional perceptions of the therapist as a parental transference figure.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><b>In other words, personality maturation takes place. <\/b>[2]<\/p>\n<p>Source:<br \/>\n[1] \/\/www.cbtvspsychodynamic.com\/transferenceexamples.html<br \/>\n[2]\u00a0\/\/modernpsychoanalysis.blogspot.co.uk\/2007\/02\/narcissistic-transference.html<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>Possibilities for Consideration<\/h2>\n<h3>Take a moment and examine\u2026<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>As you reviewed the material above, what stood out to you?<\/li>\n<li>What is the potential impact, economically and\/or socially?<\/li>\n<li>What action is needed to stop or support this idea?<\/li>\n<li>You may want to consider whether you:\n<ul>\n<li>want to be\u00a0<em>aware<\/em>\u00a0of,<\/li>\n<li>should become\u00a0<em>supportive<\/em>\u00a0of,<\/li>\n<li>would want to be\u00a0<em>active<\/em>\u00a0in this topic?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Add Your Insight<\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply.<br \/>\nBeing willing is not enough; we must do.<br \/>\n<\/em>LEONARDO DA VINCI<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"mh-excerpt\"><p>Opening Insights: Examples of Transference In an attempt to demystify transference, here are some very simple examples: You meet someone at a party who reminds you of your favorite aunt and you find yourself feeling <a class=\"mh-excerpt-more\" href=\"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/healthcare\/recovery-co-lab\/pwi-co-lab-staff\/transference-and-narcissism\/\" title=\"Transference and Narcissism\">[&#8230;]<\/a><!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":8911,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[201,81,77,80],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8906","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-emod-blog","category-discovery-co-lab-blogs","category-recovery-co-lab","category-recovery-co-lab-blogs"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-content\/uploads\/people\/pexels-photo-170894-medium.jpeg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8906","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8906"}],"version-history":[{"count":24,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8906\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23625,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8906\/revisions\/23625"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8911"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8906"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8906"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pocketwisdominsights.com\/pwicolab\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8906"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}