Opening Insights
I would suggest that we have a world that is full of anger. We even have developed a new solution called “Anger Management.” We know from the mental health world that fear is a natural and healthy emotion… when it is real fear (NOT false evidence appearing real). Anger is no different.
Informational Insights
Anger is a natural and healthy emotion that occurs as part of our survival system — when we do nothing to correct the situation in which we are afraid. If this is true (which it most likely is), than perhaps something is wrong with our solution.
We all have 5 basic needs in life:
- Survival
- Freedom
- Usefulness
- Love
- Self-Identity (Self-Esteem)
Much fear comes from hurt. Hurt is the sudden and unexpected removal of the fulfillment of one or more of these 5 basic needs. When we see no way to find a substitute to fulfill the empty need, we feel FEAR. When we cannot find a way to fulfill the empty need, we get angry which is a normal and natural reaction to TAKE ACTION NOW.
We get angry at:
- Others – Hostility
- Self – Depression
- Just hold it in – Resentment waiting to dump on someone
Now for the rest of the story…
Whenever there is a loss (the lack of the fulfillment of a need) we must go through a process of GRIEVING, sometimes called “Letting Go”. Grieving consists of 5 stages that everyone must go through.
- Denial – I don’t have a problem. It doesn’t bother me (I have no solution and do not need anybody because I don’t trust anybody. In fact I don’t care about anybody and anything. I am strong and tough.
- Bargaining to Take Control of Others – There is a problem. It isn’t that important to me. I will agree to do “This” if you will do “That”!
- Anger – When we can’t get into control of others we get angry:
- Others – Hostility
- Self – Depression
- I just hold it in – Resentment waiting to dump it on someone.
- Hopeless – We will rotate between these three forms of anger until finally, I GIVE UP and admit things are HOPELESS and I am Helpless.
- Acceptance – Then we reach the end. We surrender. Not what we needed (or wanted) but how and who will fulfill the need. We come to a place of ACCEPTANCE. We accept help from others. We find out who really:
- Understands us
- Cares about us
- Partners with us
We then embrace the concept of “WE.”
The logical conclusion is to build a “Grieving Process” into our lives.
WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE to have an app that will guide us through this grieving process to better understand ourselves – to learn and grow to be all that we can be?
WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE if we could:
- Develop real friendships that we can depend on
- Develop real relationships that we can depend on
- Develop real marriages that we can depend on
- Develop real jobs that we can depend on
In the final analysis WE GET EVEN WITH THE WORLD
Possibilities for Consideration
Take a moment and examine…
- As you reviewed the material above, what stood out to you?
- What is the potential impact, economically and/or socially?
- What action is needed to stop or support this idea?
- You may want to consider whether you:
- want to be aware of,
- should become supportive of,
- would want to be active in this topic?
Add Your Insight
I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply.
Being willing is not enough; we must do.
LEONARDO DA VINCI